Friday, July 24, 2026

The Humane Gardener by Nancy Lawson

 


   When I was a child, I marveled at the hundreds of fireflies that lit up our backyard every summer. Today I continue to be mesmerized by their lights on summer nights, but there are less of them, and they are at risk of extinction.


   If you want to make sure your children and grandchildren have the privilege to watch these stars on earth there is a lot you can do. It costs no money, but it does require common sense and empathy: leave the leaves on the ground. There are no excuses to kill their babies. When people rake leaves to throw them away, they condemn their babies to death. The use of leaf blowers also leaves a trail of devastation, disrupting the habitats of bees, moths, butterflies, birds and small mammals.

       Everything is interconnected in multiple ways. When we allow the leaves to stay on the ground--where they belong—they get decomposed and provide crucial nutrition for the trees. The leaves on the ground are also the natural shelter of various living beings that are a source of food for the birds. Why would anybody choose to starve the birds or to poison them? It takes common sense to leave them in peace. Again, it does not cost money but it does require empathetic attitudes.

    To support birds and the ecosystems in which they thrive, it is also important to avoid spraying pesticides and herbicides. By avoiding these toxic chemicals, you will also decrease the risk of making your pets and your children sick with cancer, and you will ensure that birds have a variety of safe food sources. Last, but not least, make choices that help to address climate change because global warming is also killing fireflies. Avoid light pollution. I wrote about light pollution here, so make sure you read it and share it. Turn off outdoor lights. You will save money and save the lives of fireflies and other living beings.

  I appreciate how this book dispels myths and falsehoods that mislead people and make them behave in cruel ways toward wildlife. It provides practical ideas and suggestions to coexist in harmony with wildlife while supporting the healthy growth of your garden and protecting the quality of the water, air and soil. The book contains photos that enhance the reading experience. It makes a good gift for your loved ones...



  

 Opossums

Opossums are not aggressive. They have no way to fight back when challenged. All they do is drool, hiss and sway. Yet they are one of the most abused mammals by human beings. Opossums are intentionally run over, set on fire and doused in insecticides.

Did you know that opossums eat the annoying ticks that cause Lyme’s disease?

 


 Opossums, skunks and many other misunderstood animals can be beneficial in the garden. Irrespective of the fact that they are beneficial, the humane thing to do is to let them live their lives and to respect them. It is not my intention to be preachy here, but I think we should state the obvious sometimes. Why do human beings think they have a right to be cruel to others?

 

Compassionate ways of deterring wildlife

Lavender keeps deer from devouring carrots and beets. Anisse hyssop can protect tomatoes from grazing mammals. Spraying cayenne pepper deters ants and squirrels.

 Avoid the purchase of commercial repellents that may be marked as “humane” but are obtained by abusing animals. For example, predator urine sold as a natural way to scare off wild visitors is collected from coyotes, foxes and other animals raised in wire cages on fur farms. Avoid purchasing these products if you don’t want to be complicit in this abuse.

 The information in this book encourages the reader to make decisions that are rewarding not only to the gardeners but also to wildlife.

  It also shares the experiences and stories of different people who changed their ways of gardening to support nature around them. Manicured gardens are gardens of death. Learn how you can change your garden into one of life, kindness and compassion.

 


 

Observations and reflections

  With the heatwave we’ve had to endure, the grass in the backyards of people who wasted money on chemicals became yellow.  Our grass, on the other hand, is still vibrant due to its diversity. Diversity engenders resilience. The clover thrives and helps to feed the bunnies. Clover helps to fertilize the soil in natural ways without polluting the water, the air and the soil. What is not to like about this? With the richness of our grass, the birds find an important source of food: a variety of seeds and insects they do not find in the manicured gardens of death. Furthermore, our grass looks healthier than the grass in backyards with pesticides and herbicides.

 

The charm of a humane garden

  A garden can be an oasis of hope and empathy. It may not be the solution to all the problems, but it can be part of the solution; it may create a gentle path to a more compassionate world.  It may become the home of species that are endangered... have you thought about that? 



 

  Conclusion

  The Humane Gardener offers invaluable information, suggestions and ideas to support the web of life around us. It reminds us that we share the Earth with other living beings. On ethical terms this means that our actions matter. We are accountable for our actions toward the living beings around us. When we make choices that support the health of the environment and other living beings, we are supporting our own health. What is not to like about this? Every choice, action and vote can make a difference, so educate yourself and others and let’s create a more compassionate world together.

 You can learn more about the author and the topic by checking this site.


 If you enjoyed this post, you can also check my writing on the following books:


The Comfort of Crows by Margaret Renkl

 

The Serviceberry by Robin Wall Kimmerer

 

The Ocean’s Menagerie by Drew Harvell

 

 

 

Relevant links:


The importance of planting trees:

 https://yaleclimateconnections.org/2026/07/kids-plant-trees-change-neighborhoods/

   

https://www.theguardian.com/science/2026/jul/23/space-datacenters-bezos-blue-origin

 

https://www.france24.com/en/americas/20260717-border-barrier-project-sparks-environmental-concerns-texas-national-park

 

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/jul/24/trump-canada-wildfires-smoke-scientists

Sunday, July 5, 2026

Where Sleeping Girls Lie by Faridah Abike Iyimide

 

  


   If you are going to read only one mystery book this year, make sure you pick Where Sleeping Girls Lie. Don’t be deterred by the fact that it is in the Young Adult fiction book category. I could not put this outstanding novel down. It is the kind of masterpiece that leaves me speechless, and there are many reasons why I recommend it strongly.

 

 Why do I love Where Sleeping Girls Lie?

   Where Sleeping Girls Lie is a refreshing read because the author does not taint the novel with clumsy gender stereotypes that suit the wishes of the patriarchy. The story has strong female characters who defy the patriarchy in several ways. Characters don’t need to be perfect, but I appreciate that they are relatable and interesting, and it is easy to feel a strong sense of connection with them. Unlike Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates, where the so-called “smart girl” turns out to be an insane product of the patriarchy, the smart girls in Where Sleeping Girls Lie challenge the system through their wits, humor and determination. They are smart because they can see what is wrong and they act accordingly. The female teenagers somehow band together and confront injustice.  

 

   It is liberating to read Faridah Abike-Iyimide after putting up with novels that claim to be different while falling flat into a stream of prejudices and stereotypes. For example, in The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak the female characters (Ella and Rose) cannot be brave without the feedback of men. (Rose is a sex slave but the author does not even seem to acknowledge that Rose is a slave). Ella is constantly patronized by a stranger. In The Bastard of Istanbul by Elif Shafak, the eccentric ladies she presents turn out to be unreliable and cruel by the end of the novel and the author makes sure that the reader feels more empathy for the rapist than for the female characters she portrays. I find it disappointing and disturbing. On the other hand, in Where Sleeping Girls Lie Faridah breaks new ground. She sets the reader free from the trend of throwing the “smart” women under the bus. Faridah shows how women can  band together to protect themselves. After I finished reading it, I continued thinking about the outcome of the story and about how all the pieces fit together.

    Faridah is a new kind of writer, free from the prejudices that influence other writers. How liberating! How refreshing it is to meet this author!

   

     Characters and Plot

     Like in Carthage, a female character disappears, so the puzzle revolves around her disappearance and the chain of events that ensue; there are many secrets to be discovered throughout the story…

     Sade is a sixteen-year-old new student in a boarding school in England: Alfred Nobel Academy (ANA). Before joining ANA, she had been homeschooled. It is fascinating to read about her new life in the school and how she connects with the other students. The main characters have unique personalities, and Faridah makes them jump out of the page, offering vivid settings and concise descriptions.

     The mystery starts with the sudden disappearance of a female high school student of Asian ethnicity. Her name is Elizabeth Wang; she was Sade Hussein’s room-mate. The teenager vanishes on Sade’s first night at ANA.



   The gothic buildings of the school create a dark, intriguing atmosphere. Each building has the name of a historical figure from the past… Sade and her new friends navigate an oppressive system of racism, misogyny, greed and corruption, but they challenge it in multiple ways.

  Getting to know the characters well was a riveting adventure. I appreciate how the author makes the suspense grow. She keeps the reader actively engaged through the planting of enigmatic clues. Some of the characters are teenagers I would be happy to befriend, like Basil, Persephone, Elizabeth and Sade. Unlike Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult, a novel in which all the teenagers portrayed are shallow, uninspiring and boring, Faridah offers characters that you are willing to meet in-person. (Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed reading Nineteen Minutes, but I did not like the characters in that story).

      As you read Where Sleeping Girls lie, you may consider asking questions about the study of history:

         Who do we celebrate when we study history? Who do we honor?

         Who do we ignore and why? How does a biased selection shape our present? How does this impact our future?

         How can we improve the study of history to make it inclusive and relevant to our times? How do we learn new perspectives to comprehend the past?

           I do not want to reveal too much because this book is amazing, thought-provoking and incredibly relevant. I also appreciate that the ending offers hope, and we need hope more than ever.

          I dare say this is my favorite mystery of the year and my favorite Young Adult fiction of the year. I am thankful that the universe made me cross paths with this masterpiece. Encounters with books are like little miracles that make us fall in love with the magic of reading.

       I came across this book at my local library and I look forward to reading more works by this author.

 

           A brief note about the author

         Faridah Abike-Iyimide is the award-winning, instant New York Times—and internationally bestselling author of Ace of Spades. She is a graduate from a university in the Scottish Highlands, where she received a bachelor of arts in English Literature. She also has an MA in Shakespeare studies from Kings College London. You can learn more about Faridah by checking her website:

Faridahabikeiyimide.com

 

  

 

Comparative analysis between Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates and Where Sleeping Girls Lie (along with some commentary on other recent reads).

   

    If you have already read Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates, feel free to read this analysis.

    It was fascinating to realize that these two books landed on my desk at the same time. When I had to choose which one to read first, I selected Carthage, but I did not know that Where Sleeping Girls Lie would be more satisfying and even more insightful. Unlike Carthage, it is also free of prejudices.

   In both mystery novels a woman disappears. In the case of Where Sleeping Girls Lie the female character who disappears is a teenager. Both stories expose the normalization of male violence and how the forces of the patriarchy shape the way people judge women and men differently.  In both stories there is a conflict between two sisters…

    Where Sleeping Girls Lie highlights how patriarchal forces enable the abuse of women while Carthage suggests that women are in part responsible for these abusive behaviors by doing nothing to set themselves free from the abuser or by supporting and admiring violent males. I think Carthage could have been instead an opportunity to expose how the system does not believe women and how it puts them in danger, but Joyce Carol Oates did something similar in We Were the Mulvaneys. In this novel, Oates shows that Corinne Mulvaney condoned her husband’s abusive behavior. I think there is a clear bias against the female gender in these two novels. Why is the author so persistent when it comes to placing the onus on women? The author is clearly interested in revealing the internalized misogyny of her female characters. To make matters even worse, Corinne Mulvaney did not provide support to her daughter after she was raped and even drove her away from her home because she could not deal with the reality of the rape.  I know I am digressing here, but it is hard not to see the analogies.

   Writing about this brings to mind the tragic experience of Gabby Petito. Somebody reported the physical abuse perpetrated by Brian Laundrie by calling 911, so the police officers in Utah were summoned up. She was clearly asking for help and distressed when the police officers encountered the couple. Gabby Petito received no support or help from the police officers. The abuser was in control. She was considered the “crazy” one, even though she was the victim. Soon after she asked for help, she was strangled by her boyfriend.

   The most important differences between Carthage and Where Sleeping Girls Lie manifest in the ways in which the female characters respond to the demands and injustice of the patriarchy. In Where Sleeping Girls Lie the female characters can see the problems and advocate for change. In Carthage, women adopt a more submissive attitude, even when they can see some of the problems.

    Religion appears to appease and comfort Arlette. It helps her accept her reality and to forgive and be kind. The Catholic Religion in Carthage is something that guides people to be kind to others, to be more tolerant. The context triggers a compelling question: Can people be kind without religion? Joyce Carol Oates shows that Cressida is non-religious and inconsiderate, so the author here seems to associate religion with being kind to others, which can be misleading. Women are expected to be charitable, and religion appears to be the medium that facilitates this. Is the situation suggesting that religion is essential to count on a moral backbone? This suggestion has the potential to implant a form of bigotry.  Arlette’s husband, on the other hand, is the one involved in politics. He is not religious, but he tries to hide his lack of faith, and Arlette cannot fully trust her husband, which reinforces the bigoted idea that without religion a person cannot be trusted. Yet he is the one Cressida puts on a pedestal.

   Cressida is labeled as a “smart” girl, but she treats her mother in condescending ways and admires her father. Cressida’s attitude is a product of the patriarchy despite her rebellious nature.  Cressida also suffers because she does not meet the beauty standards demanded by the patriarchy. Unfortunately, the author does not care too much about sowing empathy for Cressida either. Take a moment to read the reviews to confirm this. You will read that some reviewers state that they would like to “throw Cressida into the river.” Yet they express that they do feel sympathy for Brett Kincaid. They are not bothered by the fact that he had physically attacked his girlfriend, Juliet, and had hung out with rapists… What does this tell you about the society we live in? Joyce Carol Oates paints “smart Cressida” as mischievous and unreliable. Yet Cressida volunteered to help boys by tutoring them in math. Then the boys labeled her as the “homely” one, which means “ugly” in American English. From that point on, she refused to volunteer, which means that being smart did not protect her from being overly concerned about the opinions of others. Being smart as a woman did not protect her from being objectified either. Her sister, Juliet, was considered “the beautiful” one, so Cressida was jealous.

    To make matters even more distressing, Cressida was considered “too smart.” Think about that for a moment. I’ve never heard of a man being accused of being too smart. Intelligence is celebrated, irrespective of the man’s looks. Cressida’s father even warned her about the possibility of being attacked because of her blunt remarks, hinting at the idea that being smart was considered dangerous. I have already explained the stereotyping of the “smart woman” here, so I will not delve into this again. Feel free to read my post on this here.

     Carthage is a very depressing novel in which women adapt to their situations without really changing anything. They do what women are expected to do: they are charitable, but Zeno is the politician. He is the leader, the one with power, and the ending does not seem to muffle the sharpness of the contrast between Arlette, the submissive wife, and Zeno, the politician. There is some growth in most of the characters in Carthage, but it does not make up for the stereotyping and prejudices that pervade the novel. By the end of the novel Arlette may not be the subservient wife she was at the beginning, but she is still docile in many ways. She is wise, but she is not vocal. She acts in accordance with the words from the New Testament: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.”

     Faridah does not let us lose hope for her female characters in Where Sleeping girls Lie.  She gives them agency to have their own thoughts from the beginning of the novel. The author trusts the smart girls. I do not see any signs of internalized misogyny here. Faridah is a new kind of writer who believes in the power of her female characters to understand and be vocal; they summon up courage amid adverse circumstances and set creative solutions in motion. The author has genuine faith in women and refuses to succumb to any type of prejudice. The women and teenagers in this novel will surprise you... They are alert; they know that things can change, and they work to make change happen…



A relevant link to share with crime analyst Laura Richards:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2pp1vfPWmI


Here's an informative article about domestic violence and the need to debunk myths about it:

 https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jul/23/pauline-hansons-comments-about-domestic-violence-are-more-than-vile-they-are-dangerous-for-women-ntwnfb