Showing posts with label misogyny. Show all posts
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Sunday, July 5, 2026

Where Sleeping Girls Lie by Faridah Abike Iyimide

 

  


   If you are going to read only one mystery book this year, make sure you pick Where Sleeping Girls Lie. Don’t be deterred by the fact that it is in the Young Adult fiction book category. I could not put this outstanding novel down. It is the kind of masterpiece that leaves me speechless, and there are many reasons why I recommend it strongly.

 

 Why do I love Where Sleeping Girls Lie?

   Where Sleeping Girls Lie is a refreshing read because the author does not taint the novel with clumsy gender stereotypes that suit the wishes of the patriarchy. The story has strong female characters who defy the patriarchy in several ways. Characters don’t need to be perfect, but I appreciate that they are relatable and interesting, and it is easy to feel a strong sense of connection with them. Unlike Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates, where the so-called “smart girl” turns out to be an insane product of the patriarchy, the smart girls in Where Sleeping Girls Lie challenge the system through their wits, humor and determination. They are smart because they can see what is wrong and they act accordingly. The female teenagers somehow band together and confront injustice.  

 

   It is liberating to read Faridah Abike-Iyimide after putting up with novels that claim to be different while falling flat into a stream of prejudices and stereotypes. For example, in The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak the female characters (Ella and Rose) cannot be brave without the feedback of men. (Rose is a sex slave but the author does not even seem to acknowledge that Rose is a slave). Ella is constantly patronized by a stranger. In The Bastard of Istanbul by Elif Shafak, the eccentric ladies she presents turn out to be unreliable and cruel by the end of the novel and the author makes sure that the reader feels more empathy for the rapist than for the female characters she portrays. I find it disappointing and disturbing. On the other hand, in Where Sleeping Girls Lie Faridah breaks new ground. She sets the reader free from the trend of throwing the “smart” women under the bus. Faridah shows how women can  band together to protect themselves. After I finished reading it, I continued thinking about the outcome of the story and about how all the pieces fit together.

    Faridah is a new kind of writer, free from the prejudices that influence other writers. How liberating! How refreshing it is to meet this author!

   

     Characters and Plot

     Like in Carthage, a female character disappears, so the puzzle revolves around her disappearance and the chain of events that ensue; there are many secrets to be discovered throughout the story…

     Sade is a sixteen-year-old new student in a boarding school in England: Alfred Nobel Academy (ANA). Before joining ANA, she had been homeschooled. It is fascinating to read about her new life in the school and how she connects with the other students. The main characters have unique personalities, and Faridah makes them jump out of the page, offering vivid settings and concise descriptions.

     The mystery starts with the sudden disappearance of a female high school student of Asian ethnicity. Her name is Elizabeth Wang; she was Sade Hussein’s room-mate. The teenager vanishes on Sade’s first night at ANA.



   The gothic buildings of the school create a dark, intriguing atmosphere. Each building has the name of a historical figure from the past… Sade and her new friends navigate an oppressive system of racism, misogyny, greed and corruption, but they challenge it in multiple ways.

  Getting to know the characters well was a riveting adventure. I appreciate how the author makes the suspense grow. She keeps the reader actively engaged through the planting of enigmatic clues. Some of the characters are teenagers I would be happy to befriend, like Basil, Persephone, Elizabeth and Sade. Unlike Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult, a novel in which all the teenagers portrayed are shallow, uninspiring and boring, Faridah offers characters that you are willing to meet in-person. (Don’t get me wrong. I enjoyed reading Nineteen Minutes, but I did not like the characters in that story).

      As you read Where Sleeping Girls lie, you may consider asking questions about the study of history:

         Who do we celebrate when we study history? Who do we honor?

         Who do we ignore and why? How does a biased selection shape our present? How does this impact our future?

         How can we improve the study of history to make it inclusive and relevant to our times? How do we learn new perspectives to comprehend the past?

           I do not want to reveal too much because this book is amazing, thought-provoking and incredibly relevant. I also appreciate that the ending offers hope, and we need hope more than ever.

          I dare say this is my favorite mystery of the year and my favorite Young Adult fiction of the year. I am thankful that the universe made me cross paths with this masterpiece. Encounters with books are like little miracles that make us fall in love with the magic of reading.

       I came across this book at my local library and I look forward to reading more works by this author.

 

           A brief note about the author

         Faridah Abike-Iyimide is the award-winning, instant New York Times—and internationally bestselling author of Ace of Spades. She is a graduate from a university in the Scottish Highlands, where she received a bachelor of arts in English Literature. She also has an MA in Shakespeare studies from Kings College London. You can learn more about Faridah by checking her website:

Faridahabikeiyimide.com

 

  

 

Comparative analysis between Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates and Where Sleeping Girls Lie (along with some commentary on other recent reads).

   

    If you have already read Carthage by Joyce Carol Oates, feel free to read this analysis.

    It was fascinating to realize that these two books landed on my desk at the same time. When I had to choose which one to read first, I selected Carthage, but I did not know that Where Sleeping Girls Lie would be more satisfying and even more insightful. Unlike Carthage, it is also free of prejudices.

   In both mystery novels a woman disappears. In the case of Where Sleeping Girls Lie the female character who disappears is a teenager. Both stories expose the normalization of male violence and how the forces of the patriarchy shape the way people judge women and men differently.  In both stories there is a conflict between two sisters…

    Where Sleeping Girls Lie highlights how patriarchal forces enable the abuse of women while Carthage suggests that women are in part responsible for these abusive behaviors by doing nothing to set themselves free from the abuser or by supporting and admiring violent males. I think Carthage could have been instead an opportunity to expose how the system does not believe women and how it puts them in danger, but Joyce Carol Oates did something similar in We Were the Mulvaneys. In this novel, Oates shows that Corinne Mulvaney condoned her husband’s abusive behavior. I think there is a clear bias against the female gender in these two novels. Why is the author so persistent when it comes to placing the onus on women? The author is clearly interested in revealing the internalized misogyny of her female characters. To make matters even worse, Corinne Mulvaney did not provide support to her daughter after she was raped and even drove her away from her home because she could not deal with the reality of the rape.  I know I am digressing here, but it is hard not to see the analogies.

   Writing about this brings to mind the tragic experience of Gabby Petito. Somebody reported the physical abuse perpetrated by Brian Laundrie by calling 911, so the police officers in Utah were summoned up. She was clearly asking for help and distressed when the police officers encountered the couple. Gabby Petito received no support or help from the police officers. The abuser was in control. She was considered the “crazy” one, even though she was the victim. Soon after she asked for help, she was strangled by her boyfriend.

   The most important differences between Carthage and Where Sleeping Girls Lie manifest in the ways in which the female characters respond to the demands and injustice of the patriarchy. In Where Sleeping Girls Lie the female characters can see the problems and advocate for change. In Carthage, women adopt a more submissive attitude, even when they can see some of the problems.

    Religion appears to appease and comfort Arlette. It helps her accept her reality and to forgive and be kind. The Catholic Religion in Carthage is something that guides people to be kind to others, to be more tolerant. The context triggers a compelling question: Can people be kind without religion? Joyce Carol Oates shows that Cressida is non-religious and inconsiderate, so the author here seems to associate religion with being kind to others, which can be misleading. Women are expected to be charitable, and religion appears to be the medium that facilitates this. Is the situation suggesting that religion is essential to count on a moral backbone? This suggestion has the potential to implant a form of bigotry.  Arlette’s husband, on the other hand, is the one involved in politics. He is not religious, but he tries to hide his lack of faith, and Arlette cannot fully trust her husband, which reinforces the bigoted idea that without religion a person cannot be trusted. Yet he is the one Cressida puts on a pedestal.

   Cressida is labeled as a “smart” girl, but she treats her mother in condescending ways and admires her father. Cressida’s attitude is a product of the patriarchy despite her rebellious nature.  Cressida also suffers because she does not meet the beauty standards demanded by the patriarchy. Unfortunately, the author does not care too much about sowing empathy for Cressida either. Take a moment to read the reviews to confirm this. You will read that some reviewers state that they would like to “throw Cressida into the river.” Yet they express that they do feel sympathy for Brett Kincaid. They are not bothered by the fact that he had physically attacked his girlfriend, Juliet, and had hung out with rapists… What does this tell you about the society we live in? Joyce Carol Oates paints “smart Cressida” as mischievous and unreliable. Yet Cressida volunteered to help boys by tutoring them in math. Then the boys labeled her as the “homely” one, which means “ugly” in American English. From that point on, she refused to volunteer, which means that being smart did not protect her from being overly concerned about the opinions of others. Being smart as a woman did not protect her from being objectified either. Her sister, Juliet, was considered “the beautiful” one, so Cressida was jealous.

    To make matters even more distressing, Cressida was considered “too smart.” Think about that for a moment. I’ve never heard of a man being accused of being too smart. Intelligence is celebrated, irrespective of the man’s looks. Cressida’s father even warned her about the possibility of being attacked because of her blunt remarks, hinting at the idea that being smart was considered dangerous. I have already explained the stereotyping of the “smart woman” here, so I will not delve into this again. Feel free to read my post on this here.

     Carthage is a very depressing novel in which women adapt to their situations without really changing anything. They do what women are expected to do: they are charitable, but Zeno is the politician. He is the leader, the one with power, and the ending does not seem to muffle the sharpness of the contrast between Arlette, the submissive wife, and Zeno, the politician. There is some growth in most of the characters in Carthage, but it does not make up for the stereotyping and prejudices that pervade the novel. By the end of the novel Arlette may not be the subservient wife she was at the beginning, but she is still docile in many ways. She is wise, but she is not vocal. She acts in accordance with the words from the New Testament: “Let a woman learn quietly with all submissiveness.”

     Faridah does not let us lose hope for her female characters in Where Sleeping girls Lie.  She gives them agency to have their own thoughts from the beginning of the novel. The author trusts the smart girls. I do not see any signs of internalized misogyny here. Faridah is a new kind of writer who believes in the power of her female characters to understand and be vocal; they summon up courage amid adverse circumstances and set creative solutions in motion. The author has genuine faith in women and refuses to succumb to any type of prejudice. The women and teenagers in this novel will surprise you... They are alert; they know that things can change, and they work to make change happen…



A relevant link to share with crime analyst Laura Richards:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D2pp1vfPWmI


Here's an informative article about domestic violence and the need to debunk myths about it:

 https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2026/jul/23/pauline-hansons-comments-about-domestic-violence-are-more-than-vile-they-are-dangerous-for-women-ntwnfb


Saturday, November 9, 2024

Parable of the Sower by Octavia Butler

 


  I needed to take a break from reality on the night of November 6, 2024, so right after dinner I immersed myself in Octavia Butler’s book. But life has a way of playing tricks on me. When I reached page 25, I was shocked to read that the main character, Lauren, had written a journal entry dated on Wednesday November 6, 2024. Yes, you’ve read that correctly. It was the same day of the week, date and year. I had trouble believing the coincidence of such a synchronicity.

  According to the journal entry, Mr. Donner had won the presidential election and he would dismantle environmental regulations and worker protection laws…

   I can’t believe I am writing this but… dystopias are not meant to be used as playbooks. They can be offered to relay the fruits of the author’s foresight to people who are confused and can’t evaluate the consequences of foolish actions and decisions.

  A dystopia takes us to a place where we do not want to go. Parable of the Sower dares to do that.

  What happens when people choose vulgarity and hatred over empathy and common sense?

  What happens when a climate crisis is blatantly ignored and not addressed?

  What happens when the truth does not matter anymore?

  To know the answers to these questions, you can read Parable of the Sower. Octavia Butler delves into the context well. It is like going back to the Middle Ages, but with a climate crisis on top of it. It is unsettling and disturbing. Read it and pass it on to those who still believe in the power of books. It is a story of survival amid dark life circumstances. It is riveting, fascinating and very unpleasant. I am still reading it…

  I can’t believe she published this book in 1993. Octavia Butler was a genius. I can’t figure out why this book is not as widely read as Farenheit 451. Perhaps it is because the author is a woman of color and not a white man.

 The setting is so vivid and terrifying: you can see with clarity how far misogyny, hatred and racism can go; in this reality, people do not even have the privilege of whining about high gasoline prices anymore, because they don’t have enough clean water to drink and keep themselves clean.

  Octavia Butler won several awards, and you can read about her life and accomplishments here:

https://www.womenshistory.org/education-resources/biographies/octavia-estelle-butler

 https://grist.org/culture/octavia-butlers-1993-parable-of-the-sower-predicted-climate-reality/


   I will end the post with the starting quote of her book:

“Prodigy is, at its essence, adaptability and persistent, positive obsession. Without persistence, what remains is an enthusiasm of the moment. Without adaptability, what remains may be channeled into destructive fanaticism. Without positive obsession, there is nothing at all.”

 


 

  Addendum to the post:

 I finally completed the read. It is a remarkable story that belongs to the speculative fiction genre. This novel provides the fertile soil to have fruitful discussions on several topics and issues that assail our modern societies. If you belong to a book club, I hope you will consider sharing it. I will continue thinking about it and reflecting on it. 

 It is interesting to point out that when the novel was first released in 1993, critics refused to accept it as speculative fiction. They believed it was a book of science fiction.

  The novel is now accepted as speculative fiction; it has become a best-seller.

 

 

Monday, April 17, 2017

"1984" by George Orwell



"Of course the people do not want war... But, after all, it is the leaders of the country who determine the policy, and it is always a simple matter to drag the people along, whether it is a democracy, a fascist dictatorship, a parliament, or a communist dictatorship. Voice or no voice, the people can always be brought to the bidding of the leaders. That is easy. All you have to do is tell them that they are being attacked and denounce the pacifists for lack of patriotism. " German Field Marshall

 A reader of this blog took the time to e-mail me the post I deleted by accident. Thank you , Claire. I appreciate your time and cooperation.
 Today I’m publishing my post on “1984” again, with a few “upgrades”.
  If there is something about the plot and/or characters that offends somebody, please bear with it. George Orwell is now dead so you can’t bully the author. Excuse my sense of humor here. I know, I know. Women are not expected to have this kind of sense of humor (unless they use it to pester a woman who opposes the bully in power).
 Thankfully, I’m married to a man who loves my sense of humor.
 Do people get annoyed by the use of pen-names? Hopefully not because George Orwell is a pen-name. Ladies and gentlemen: live and let live.

Here’s my essay on “1984” by George Orwell.

 ‘1984’ is a dystopian novel about a country called Oceania. (The name Oceania probably alludes to the isolationist nature of its people).  Oceania  is constantly at war, but its citizens do not know why it is at war. They do support it, though, because anybody who is not a supporter is considered a traitor.
  Hatred and rage fuel the support of this endless war. 

 Anyone who dares to oppose the dictator’s ideas or think differently is vilified and will disappear. Those who work for the party are instructed to manipulate the truth as needed.  In fact, nobody is expected to  care about the truth because their lives would be at stake if they did. Freedom is considered to be blind obedience to the leader. 
 Physical movements and facial expressions are closely monitored by screens in people’s homes, political prisoners are treated worse than criminals and love does not exist; hatred and fear condition everybody’s behavior. Blind obedience to Big Brother is what matters.

 Torture and starvation await anybody who dares to challenge the system in any way.  Another strategy of the ruling Party is to destroy words. “We’re cutting the language down to the bone. Don’t you see that the whole aim of Newspeak is to narrow the range of thought?” “There will be no thought as we understand it now. Orthodoxy is unconsciousness.”

  Winston is a thirty-nine year-old man who works for the Ministry of Truth. He helps to change the historical facts but, in reality, he is a free thinking person who would like to sabotage Big Brother’s dictatorship. He falls in love with a woman, and they both challenge the system by loving each other and having secret encounters that they must plan in advance.

 When Winston becomes a political prisoner a member of the inner Party confesses to him, “Our civilization is founded upon hatred. In our world there will be no emotions except fear, rage, triumph, and self-abasement. Everything else we shall destroy - everything. Already we have destroyed the habits of thought which have survived from before the Revolution. We have cut the links between child and parent, and between man and man, and between man and woman. No one dares trust a wife or a child or a friend any longer. ..”
   “There will be no loyalty, except loyalty toward the party. There will be no love, except the love of Big Brother. There will be no laughter, except the laugh of triumph over a defeated enemy. There will be no art, no literature, no science”.
The Party seeks power entirely for its own sake. We are not interested in the good of others; we are interested solely in power”. “We know that no one ever seizes power with the intention of relinquishing it. Power is not a means; it is an end. One does not establish a dictatorship in order to safeguard a revolution; one makes the revolution in order to establish the dictatorship. The object of persecution is persecution. The object of torture is torture. The object of power is power”.

 The truth is distorted to meet the leader’s interests; conformity becomes the rule.
 The society in which the authoritarian regime thrives is designed carefully to disregard critical thinking and to believe blindly in their leader. His authority is not to be questioned, and those who dare do it are punished and labeled as enemies. George Orwell portrays the dynamics of this society with striking details.

 The features that make Big Brother powerful are the following:
-Fanaticism
-Exacerbated nationalism
-Mindless slogans and repeated lies
-The destruction of language
-Use of songs and ceremonies to venerate the leader


  The past becomes mutable for the government can manipulate history by rewriting the historical facts and changing the data to keep the dictator in power.  This is done because the omnipotence of the dictator can only be preserved through lies and irrationality. 

  In Oceania the proletarians - also called “the proles”- are the majority of the population. The Party claimed to have liberated “the proles”, but, in reality, the dictator does not care about them.
“So long as they continued to work and breed, their other activities were without importance.”
“All that was required of them was a primitive patriotism which could be appealed to whenever it was necessary to make them accept longer working hours or shorter rations”.
   Contradictions are at the heart of the regime. In ‘1984’ the Ministry of Peace concerns itself with war, the Ministry of Truth with lies, the Ministry of Love with torture, and the Ministry of Plenty with starvation. 

    The question that lingers in my mind is whether these totalitarian leaders succeed because of the ignorance and/ or apathy of the masses or the conformism of the intellectuals. I think it is a combination of both. As Albert Einstein said, “Few are those who see with their own eyes and feel with their own hearts.”





Saturday, October 1, 2016

"The Handmaid's Tale" by Margaret Atwood



I’ve already described some of the outstanding qualities of Margaret Atwood’s oeuvre: ingenious satire and social insight along with well developed characters and plots.
 In "The Handmaid’s Tale" the United States of America is taken over by fundamentalist Christians. Under the new regime women are not allowed to read, work or think. They are only expected to obey  the rules that powerful men create. Women are forced to reproduce. The dissidents are severely punished.
  As part of this regime there is an underworld in which rich privileged men use women as a source of entertainment. When a woman is raped they say that she deserves it; it is God's plan.  Margaret Atwood wrote this book in the 1980s, yet it appears to be of relevance today.

   

  White women in America earn 75 % of what white men make; African American women make 63 %, even with the same level of education and experience; Latina women only make 54% of what white males earn. These figures show clearly that gender and ethnic discrimination go hand in hand.

 We all deserve the same respect, dignity and consideration. (And, by the way, if you don't like to hear a woman yelling, then don't excuse a man for doing so, even if he is white and American).

 If you want to understand how unconscious and conscious biases determine the way women are judged and treated differently I recommend the well researched book by Iris Bohnet: “What Works: gender equality by design.” In addition to exploring  the complexity and consequences of these biases through concrete examples, she proposes solutions to this important issue.