Tuesday, December 23, 2025

I Will Always Write Back by Caitlin Alifirenka and Martin Ganda

 


      The heartwarming true story of the unlikely friendship between an American girl and an African boy in Zimbabwe will delight your heart and give you hope. I could not put this one down.

    Caitlin met her best friend through letters, when she was in seventh grade. Nobody could have predicted that the friendship would last to this day. Back then, Caitlin lived in Hatfield, Pennsylvania, while Martin Ganda and his family lived in Mutare, Zimbabwe.  

   Everything started with a school assignment in the year 1997. The students in Caitlin’s classroom were asked to write a letter to a student residing in a different country. Caitlin’s classmates picked students in European countries such as Italy, France, England and Germany, but Caitlin’s attention got hooked on “Zimbabwe”, located on the bottom line of the list of names on the blackboard.

  What Caitlin did not know when they started exchanging letters was that culture was not the only difference between them; Martin and his family lived a life of deprivation.

   The name “Zimbabwe” intrigued Caitlin. She was aware that Zimbabwe was a country in Africa, but other than that she knew nothing about it.

  Caitlin was curious to learn about Zimbabwe and was excited to write her first letter to her pen-pal, who lived seven thousand miles away from her, on the opposite side of the world. (Seven thousand miles is equivalent to eleven thousand kilometers)

    She searched for information about the mysterious country. Caitlin found out that Zimbabwe had been liberated from the United Kingdom in 1980. The national language was Shona, but most people could speak English.

  That first letter was the beginning of a friendship that would lead to personal growth, knowledge and new life experiences. Caitlin and Martin belonged to different cultures, but their friendship was authentic They supported each other through every setback, roadblock and stressful life situation.



      The chapters written by Caitlin alternate with those written by Martin, so we get to understand their personal perspectives and views. Through their distinct narratives we learn about their lives, hopes and challenges as they grow and change over time.

   The suspense of their interactions builds up when we become aware of the extreme poverty of Martin’s life situation and the fact that, initially, he conceals the truth about his life to protect Caitlin. He may have feared that she would reject him. He did not want to spoil their friendship. Sharing the reality of his situation could have clouded her optimism; he did not want to disappoint her.

  While Caitlin went shopping every weekend and fretted over shallow school drama she shared with Martin, Martin lived a life of deprivation. Martin and his four siblings did not even have a mattress to sleep on. They all slept under their parents’ bed, where they kept the pots and pans during the day. The siblings shared one blanket.

  Martin and his family lived in one room, which they had to share with another family, a curtain separating them to provide a modicum of privacy. They had no running water or electricity.

  After a few letters the school that Martin attended could not provide the money to mail his letters anymore, so to continue the letter exchange he would pay for the mail fees himself… This was not easy considering that his family did not even have enough food to eat on a regular basis. One day Caitlin sent him one American dollar for him to see what it looked like... She would never have guessed that that dollar would save Martin and his family from hunger. One American dollar helped to buy food for two weeks for the whole family, and he was able to pay the postage for his next letter to Caitlin…

 

     The power of free education

   Caitlin knew nothing about Martin’s precarious living situation, but everything changed when Martin’s family could not afford the school fees and he had to drop out of school. His father had lost his job at a paper factory. Furthermore, Inflation was getting worse. The cost of living was skyrocketing. Martin was forced to do odd jobs that were not even enough to eke out a living. He did not want to reveal the truth, but, on the other hand, Caitlin needed to receive his letters to be reassured that he was well and that their friendship mattered to him.

  Martin had excelled as a student; his mother had high expectations, so dropping out of school was catastrophic for them. They were heartbroken. He needed to finish high school first, and then after high school he wanted to attend university. That was his dream.

 


   An authentic friendship

   Caitlin’s friends soon lost interest in their European pen-pals, but Caitlin’s and Martin’s friendship stayed strong. Martin became Caitlin’s best friend, and her school peers made fun of her because they assumed that she had a romantic interest in him. This was not the case. Caitlin felt he was like a sibling to her. She expressed this clearly, but her peers constantly mocked her and treated her with disdain. She could tell they were jealous of her friendship with Martin.

    It was uplifting to read how Caitlin and her mother, Anne Neville, ended up supporting Martin and his family. I do not want to spoil it, so I will not share too much about their story.  It should be enough to mention that I will Always Write Back brought tears of joy to my eyes on more than one occasion.



   I think this book should be shared in every school across the United States of America and the world. First of all, I Will Always Write Back may awaken people to the importance of education and to not take education for granted. Secondly, it will remind people everywhere that citizens in other countries have lives, families, feelings, dreams. They are not the "enemy." It makes no sense to cheer for a bully who dehumanizes people from other countries, right?  

   I hope teachers will read my blog post and consider using I will Always Write Back for classroom conversations. Hopefully, students can take a break from playing video games and read books like this one. The world needs more empathy and critical thinking skills.

   Martin has three brothers and one sister whose name is Lois. Lois was also an excellent student and I liked that Martin had faith in her and wanted Lois to continue her education. I do not know what happened with Lois. I hope she is well. Girls face additional challenges in Zimbabwe. In rural areas girls have to travel long distances to school and this can be dangerous. There are various challenges that make everything harder for girls.

   I was impressed by how Anne Neville and Caitlin persevered against all odds to help Martin. There was a situation that appeared to be insurmountable, but eventually the outcome was positive…

   It was interesting to learn about Martin’s culture in Zimbabwe. For example, the members of a family share the clothes they have. It is normal for them to do so.

   There is a lot to process about the story. Do not get discouraged if the first chapters make you angry or impatient. Keep reading because the book will not disappoint you. There are many situations that may enrage you. That is okay. Honesty is necessary to tell a story—any story. I kept thinking about it long after I finished it, and I researched more about Zimbabwe. I still have lots of questions in my head about the current situation in Zimbabwe, so I looked up some information from a UNICEF site.

  

 

Coming of age story

The whole experience opened up Caitlin’s eyes to a reality that was totally unfamiliar to her. I was impressed by how thoughtful she was when she was determined to help Martin and his family in critical situations. Her kindness made a huge impact on the life of Martin and his family.

  Getting to know Martin and his family transformed Caitlin in many positive ways, and I am thankful that Caitlin and Martin decided to write down their experience and publish it in the form of a book, to share it with the world. They did so with the help of Liz Welch, a professional writer.

   I came across I Will Always Write Back at my local library and I fell in love with it as soon as I began reading it. It is a precious gift to share with others, and I think it is very relevant today. I highly recommend it.

    I will Always Write Back should be shared in schools. It can be included in reading programs and book clubs. It is a book that will interest people of all ages.

   We must inspire students to make choices that align with empathy, respect and cooperation. Bullying and dehumanizing others lead to wars and destruction. Who wants a world consumed by wars and ecological destruction?

  

 

End-of- year message 

 

 It has been a busy year for My Writing Life blog. I hope you had fun visiting this site. I enjoy writing every post, and I hope to continue doing so in 2026. It is not easy. It is a mission that requires work and attention to detail. I do it with love. It is not perfect. Please, understand that I do my best.

 

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     I want to share something that happens right now with this blog. Unfortunately, Google stopped indexing my blog posts last August. This means that the blog posts I published over the last four months will not appear in Google searches.

   I contacted Google several times to no avail. I persevere in my attempts to ensure that the blog posts continue to get indexed, but Google ignores my requests. I see that Google has other priorities, like paying for Donald Trump’s “ballroom”. I get it. The content of My Writing Life blog does not align with the interests of the trump regime.  However, I follow all the rules and there is no reason for Google to stop indexing my posts. I don’t think it is fair to make my posts invisible in Google searches.

  Google is one of the most powerful information gatekeepers in the world. By removing information at the request of authoritarian governments, Google has collaborated with authoritarian regimes in the past. You can learn more details on this by reading this reporting here.

  The months prior to the fateful 2024 Presidential election in America Google did not index my blog posts either. My Writing Life blog supports democratic principles and tried to educate the public on the need to prevent the trump regime from materializing, but Google refused to index the posts of My Writing Life: Awareness, Reflection, Inspiration during the months that preceded the presidential election as well. Why? I have no idea.

   Google returned to the same tactic in August 2025, but I have good news for you: I will not be deterred by bullies and corporate greed. The plan is to continue choosing the books I want to read, and I will write about them.  Nobody else selects the books I include in My Writing Life. I am unapologetic about my choices, and I will keep it this way. If you like a blog post, share it. I need support to keep this blog visible. 

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