Tuesday, February 21, 2023

Rebirth

 


Could we just look at what unites us instead of always searching for what divides us?”

Galatea Georgiou

 There is no way out of grief. It is through the emotions of grief that we can heal and become whole. Galatea’s poetry flows like the clear waters of a stream. It is transparent and straightforward. It refreshes the soul, washing away the resistance to feel what one needs to feel.  

  Her poetry is simple yet profound. The blending of the poems with her photography deepens the message.

It takes guts to be gentle and kind.”

   With so much going on in the world today it is easy to fall. Despite the turmoil and disappointments, working toward our life purpose contributes to our own healing, and as we persevere, we build resilience and kindle the fragile light of hope within ourselves.



 I embrace the reflections and observations that her healing process evinced.

 Rebirth is the inspiring expression of her authentic self and the wisdom drawn out of pain and solitude. Rebirth is a journey toward healing. It is the discovery of one’s inner strength. It is about finding one’s spiritual home and caring for the inner child.

 

“fill your mind with knowledge

 and your heart with unconditional love

change yourself to the best version of you

only then we can rebuild the world.”

 

 I thank the poet for sharing Rebirth with me for My Writing Life blog. Galatea Georgiou is also a songwriter, musician and photographer. She lives in Sweden. You can visit her website here:

                     https://galateageorgiou.com/



Note: the photo added to this post is by Andy Holmes. 

Tuesday, February 14, 2023

Just Five Minutes with You, My Son: A Son's Suicide, a Mother's Journey

 


 The loss of a son or a daughter is a devastating, life-transforming experience for which nobody is prepared, and when the loss happens as a result of suicide the confusion may be even greater.

 No words can relieve the pain. Along with the vastness of such an emptiness, the love in a parent’s heart stays alive, and the relationship with the lost child is as unique as each person’s life journey.

 Every day I create a bond between us. I write the story of his life and death. I write to remember,” Hanna Granot wrote.

    Doron was only nineteen years old when he ended his life, twenty years ago. His mother spent ten years writing Just Five Minutes with You, My Son. Doron was a happy, optimistic person, so his suicide shocked everybody. Hanna was determined to examine his life in search for answers.

 I set out on the journey into Doron’s life to find healing, consolation and insights into our loss of him.”

 Reading Hanna’s book has been a very emotional experience. Immersing myself in Doron’s childhood was magical. The questions and reflections he expressed when he was a child cast a spell on me. From his interactions with one of his teachers and parents I perceived his giftedness.

   It was unsettling and painful for me to learn that at age nineteen his military duties had chronically deprived him of the sleep hours he needed to maintain his health. Today we know that regular sleep is an essential part of the foundation of mental health.

   Just Five Minutes with You, My Son celebrates Doron's life and reflects on   various aspects of grief and love. It is a source of support, comfort and understanding to parents who have lost a child. It is also a resource for those who want to genuinely support others in similar situations.

   One aspect of the book that enchanted me was the way she travels with her imagination through time, and to various places. She also dives into her son’s mind and even creates imaginary situations. For example, she wrote an imaginary conversation between Doron and Anne Frank.

 This book is a reminder that it is okay to not be okay. It may encourage people to seek help at times of crisis, for it sheds light on the helplessness of the loved ones who are left  with all the questions.

 Nobody is immune to such a tragedy.

   I appreciate Hanna’s courage and the insights she shares, a result of the wisdom that emerges from the depths of bereavement:

  "I understand that the pursuit of perfection is misguided at its very core. There is nothing immaculate in our world."

   I thank Hanna Granot for trusting me with her book.  Just Five Minutes with you, My Son” may help save lives, and it may kindle a light to connect people through understanding and kindness.

 

 

 

 

Friday, February 3, 2023

Across Many Mountains: A Tibetan Family's Epic Journey from Oppression to Freedom

 


 This is probably one of the best books I’ve read in my life.

 Across Many Mountains is an extraordinary read about resilience and following one’s path in life. Even though we belong to different cultures, I experienced a profound spiritual connection with the three women portrayed in the book cover: grandmother, mother and daughter.

  Invigorating, memorable, astonishing are some of the adjectives I can use to describe this reading journey to understand the Tibetan culture and plight under the oppression of the Chinese government, as well as the intricacies of the hybrid Swiss-Tibetan culture.

 Kunsang is Yangzom’s grandmother, a Buddhist nun who led a peaceful existence in a mountain monastery with her family, until Chinese soldiers invaded Tibet in the 1950s. Chinese soldiers had no respect for Tibetans’ lives, and they committed all kinds of atrocities. They destroyed everything in their path. They vandalized homes and monasteries; they killed animals and people. It was clear to Kunsang that she and her family would not survive such an invasion, so she convinced her husband, a Tibetan monk, that they had to escape to India.

 It was not an easy plan.

 Imagine yourself trekking the Himalayas without proper shoes, with hardly any food and no money. Starvation and misery awaited them. The only thread of hope they clung to was the thought of a new life in India. Their spiritual strength propelled them forward despite the dangerous risks involved due to the presence of Chinese soldiers lurking close by. These violent men were prepared to catch and assault them to prevent them from fleeing from Tibet.



 Across Many Mountains shares every detail about Tibetan culture. There is no sugarcoating in her descriptions, and we also witness their struggles in India as the refugees toiled to make ends meet under the abuse of employers who took advantage of their desperation. Kunsang lost her husband and one of her children during this excruciating period of their lives, but she carried on with her only daughter left: Sonam.

 Kunsang and Sonam managed to survive in different places in India. When Sonam was a teenager, she worked as a waitress at a luxurious restaurant in India. That was when she met a Swiss student of anthropology who fell madly in love with her. His name was Martin Brauen. With their extremely different cultural backgrounds, their challenges appeared to be as insurmountable as trekking the Himalayas as refugees, but tolerance, patience and respect proved to be invaluable in their relationship and the understanding between both families.

   The Chinese government fabricated a narrative to justify their cruelty in Tibet, a scheme that Vladimir Putin also used to invade Ukraine. It is the way tyrants proceed, but, unlike Ukrainians, Tibetans had no outside support or help to fight against the Chinese soldiers.

  The Chinese government claimed to "modernize" Tibet. However, in the year 1986, when the exiles were allowed to visit Tibet, Kunsang and her family found that the villagers had no access to running water. They had no toilets and no baths. The air was heavily polluted by Chinese factories; the precious forests that had cheered Sonam's childhood had been cut down.

 Though the rugged ridges of the Tibetan Alps were the same, the rest of the landscape was different from that of her childhood. Much of the deep forest had given way to scarred, rocky slopes or weed-choked valleys. The Chinese had chopped down the once never-ending wealth of trees, transporting them back to a motherland greedy for construction material and fuel. They did not replant the forest.”

 The Chinese government meticulously suppressed the Tibetan culture and restricted the freedom of Tibetans’ citizens. Abductions, torture, persecutions are part of the system imposed by the Chinese government since the beginning of the  invasion. The author explains how Tibetans are monitored when they try to communicate with their relatives overseas.

  Everyone knows that phone calls are tapped and regularly cut off when the wrong subjects are mentioned. All too often Tibetans who have made calls to the West receive visits from the police. As in all dictatorships, any contact with foreigners is treated as suspected espionage. The only difference in this case is that the international community doesn’t classify the People’s Republic of China as a dictatorship, even though there are no elections and no self-determination for the various nationalities, no right to freedom of expression, no free press, no unmonitored contact with the rest of the world, and no independent justice system. Any small state that restricted its citizens’ rights so strongly would be ostracized by the international community, yet the rest of the world courts China’s favor and in 2008 allowed it to present itself as a peaceable host of the Olympic Games…”

  Yangzom Brauen, the author of Across Many Mountains, was detained in Moscow for protesting against the decision to hold the Olympics in Beijing in the year 2008 . Thankfully, she was soon liberated with the help of the Swiss Embassy.

   The lives of Kunsang, Sonam and Yangzom unfold gracefully in the voice of Yangzom, whose prose stimulates the intellect, paints vivid scenes of their experiences and reveals the personal transformations that ensued after Sonam and Kunzang moved to Switzerland.

 I could not put this book down. There is something surprising on every page, and when I reached the epilogue, I did not want the story to end. It is the honesty of her writing what makes it irresistible and gripping.

  Across Many Mountains was published in the year 2012; it would be interesting to read a follow-up book about their lives. Yangzom Brauen is a very talented writer. You can learn more about her amazing artistic career by visiting her website.

  Feel free to check these articles and websites related to the blog post, to learn more about the topic:

https://savetibet.org/major-ict-reports/

https://www.rfa.org/english/news/tibet/land-10142021182417.html

https://www.hrw.org/world-report/2022/country-chapters/china-and-tibet