Lost Boys: Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them

 

    I do not have sons, but the title of this book hooked me as soon as I stepped into a library last year. I will explain why.

    Let's start by saying that when I was a child, my parents discouraged me from watching violent cartoons and movies. In fact, I abhorred those myself. I found violent movies and cartoons revolting. My parents fostered my curiosity about the world around me and motivated me to read and watch programs that inspired me to reflect and think critically. They also taught me to respect animals and the natural world. While they did consider it important to be able to defend myself and be physically strong, they did not celebrate violence nor promoted it in any way, so it was strange for me to see that some of my classmates admired the violent American cartoons and movies.

   Today I continue to feel confused and puzzled when I see how fascinated with violence so many children, teenagers and adults are.

    Violence is a useful tool of fascist regimes. It is used to generate profits while people lose their lives as a result of it. Why? Because violence is at odds with empathy. Violence drives people to shoot without respect and consideration for the lives of others, whether they are human or non-human.

      There are many forms of violence. Gun violence is one of them, but it is not the only one. Yet gun violence is a big piece of the enormous puzzle of violence that society tends to conveniently ignore, because different forms of violence get normalized on a regular basis. This is something that Garbarino analyses carefully in his book, so I will let you discover his introspective examination of the problem.

      I’ve always been aware of the fact that the most vulnerable children, teenagers and adults can be heavily influenced by the violence they grow up watching. For this reason, I’ve never understood why psychologists and sociologists don’t do enough to raise awareness on the impact of these influences.

     Don’t they have a responsibility as professionals to do so? Are they so used to the violence they grew up with that they have acquiesced to it and do nothing about it?

 

      When I visited this library and came across this title, I opened the book at once… I was astonished to discover that Dr. Garbarino expressed some of the thoughts and concerns I had been harboring in my mind for decades. I needed a resource like this one as an outlet to express myself; I needed answers to my questions. Furthermore, the book also offers a thorough approach to the problem with practical steps, ideas and recommendations as well as comprehensive plans of action to tackle the issue at every level. The content of Lost Boys is of value to parents, educators, social workers, political leaders and any member of society who cares deeply about this issue.

  The last part of the book offers a vast array of resources with contact details of organizations and associations that provide, guidance, support and training for families and their children.

  I am dividing this post into several parts to present the topic with clarity.

   It is my hope that this post will inspire people to raise awareness, spark reflections and effect change.

 

 

 Facts and statistics 

 

   It is well known that young men are about ten times as likely as young women to commit murder.

    Homicide rates in general and our juvenile homicide rate remain higher in the United States than they are in other industrialized societies, such as the countries of Europe. In America death due to gun violence is 26 times more common than in European countries. Canada has a youth homicide rate that is at least three times lower than the one in the United States of America. When this book was first published, however, in the 1990s, Canada youth homicide was ten times lower than in America.

     In the mid-1990s Boston was able to cut its youth homicide rate to zero for a period of two years due to a number of city programs designed to address these issues. Chapter seven of the book focuses on such programs.

 

Cultural roots and how they relate to violence

  The patterns of violence associated with slavery left their impact in the Southern states of the United State of America. Dr. Garbarino highlights the work of social analysts who explain that the highest homicide rates are in the states that constituted the Confederacy during the Civil War. These are the states with the highest homicide rates. On the other hand, the states with the lowest rates are in New England and the northern Midwest. For example, in 1996 Louisiana’s homicide rate was twelve times that of South Dakota. This pattern was as true in the nineteenth century as it is today.

 

 

The effects of exposing kids to violent screen content

   Dr. Garbarino puts into words the concerns that I harbored in my mind for so long. The book was published in the 1990s and nothing has been done to address the roots of it. It is important to emphasize that guns are the first cause of death of children in the United States of America. In fact, the situation has become much worse since he wrote the book. My first goal here is to highlight the roots of the issue because they have been consistently ignored and even denied. Dr. Garbarino validated my concerns by exposing the research on this, as I mentioned at the beginning of this post:

 “Many American kids watch hours and hours of atrocities, day after day, week after week. While some may label it entertainment, it is—from the point of view of a child’s development—a documentary of atrocities with the potential to traumatize and corrupt.” He also analyses the effects of violent video games carefully, but I will let you dig into that yourself.

  Aside from this book, I share recent research done on almost two thousand children which clearly shows the influence of television on violent behaviors. I share a link at the bottom of this post. Dr. Garbarino’s book looks into the research that was already available when he published the book back in the 1990s, and one cannot help but wonder why nothing has been done over this…

 “Analyses of television content reveal that a typical American child can witness more images of death and destruction from the comfort of his living room than any cop or soldier witnesses in actuality in the line of duty in a lifetime. An analysis for the American Psychological Association highlights some important elements of this exposure: ‘good’ characters or heroes commit 40 percent of the violent acts, more than a third of the bad characters are not punished, and more than 70 percent of the aggressors show no remorse and experience no criticism or penalty for their violent actions.”

  Psychologist Leonard Eron and his colleagues researched the effects of the negative influences of violent images by following a group of kids from childhood into adulthood. “Just as some people are more vulnerable to developing cancer from smoking than others, so too are some children more affected by television violence than others.” If you take a moment to reflect on this, you may compare the situation to other problems that were ignored at the expense of human health. For example, the effects of exposure of children to violence has been treated like the effects of cigarette smoke on human health. Deniers have tried to deny the effects until they cannot hide the evidence anymore. For at least three or four decades, physicians and medical institutions ignored and downplayed the effects of cigarette smoke on human health. Tobacco companies took advantage of this by promoting cigarettes as “healthful” and “safe”. I am sure the readers of this blog will think of other analogies here.

   Recent research supports the claim that exposure of boys exposed to violent screen content in the preschool years are more likely to become antisocial and violent themselves a decade later.

   I  appreciate how Dr. Garbarino raises awareness on another critical aspect of the issue: the way shallow materialism dominates some of their violent behaviors. He makes it clear and easy to understand.   

 

A comprehensive approach to the problem

 

  The author says he could have ended up like one of the violent kids himself, but he had a strong social network of support: his family and his teachers provided that.

  One important aspect to pay attention to is the need to have a person in their lives that they can fully trust. Also, having a life purpose has been shown to help these boys turn away from violent crimes and behaviors.

  The need for social programs that should start working even before the kids are born is paramount. The author provides examples of mothers who get guidance on how to deal with their children even before their babies are born.

 There are also specific programs to teach children and teenagers how to develop skills to manage their anger and interact in meaningful respectful ways:

 “The skills include nonaggressive tactics for expressing a complaint, responding to the feelings of others, recovering from a stressful conversation, responding to anger, keeping out of fights, helping others, dealing with an accusation, dealing with group pressure, expressing affection, and responding to failure.”

 Furthermore, Dr. Garbarino suggests the incorporation of spirituality and he details how.  Many lives will be saved by taking the recommendations in this book seriously.

  Access to guns is also part of the problem and he delves into this issue as well.

 I strongly encourage you to read Lost Boys. Share it. There is a long list of resources at the end that I hope will be helpful.

 The book, however, does have some flaws and weaknesses.

       

 

 

Flaws and weaknesses

1) One aspect he glosses over is the role of sexism in some of these dysfunctional social situations. He does acknowledge how the boys consider girls weaker and that behaviors of girls are viewed as less than those of boys. He points out the problem but he does not offer a plan to address this distorted view the boys have. Likewise, he conveniently ignores sexual violence. Why?

 2) Not every traumatized child becomes violent and abusive. Yet Dr. Garbarino presents the information in a way that suggests this is the case, which may lead to generalizations and prejudices. Dr. Garbarino shares details about their lives to explain their dangerous behaviors. He inveigles the reader into believing that the reason for their violent behaviors has to do with their survival, for example, or with a sense of impending danger that is a threat to them, but his argument does not hold water when he refers to how some boys torture or kill animals who are in no way threatening to them. Animals are the most vulnerable beings and they are not a threat to the boys’ safety, so in these specific cases we may be dealing with a psychopath instead.

3) Dr. Garbarino should have devoted an entire chapter to psychopaths to help people identify them. He only wrote two lines about psychopaths. I find this deeply disturbing.

 4) Another aspect of the book that I found troubling is the fact that he is so obsessed about the lack of compassion toward violent boys. Really? Strangely enough, I perceive lack of compassion toward victims instead. He is so invested in giving the violent boys second chances that he forgets the potential victims of the boys “who fall through the cracks.” As far as I know, violent boys can grow into men who are allowed to become presidents, members of the Supreme Court and Congressmen. The violent boys can be easily forgiven and empowered while the victims continue to be bullied, retraumatized and easily forgotten by society.

 

 

Conclusion

 

  I recommend Lost Boys, but I do acknowledge that it has some serious flaws and weaknesses that should be addressed with an expanded version of the book.

   I read an old edition because my local library system does not have this specific book. I decided to purchase it second-hand. I will pass it on to share it with others and raise awareness. 

 

 

 

Relevant links:

Recent research shows clear link between early exposure to violence and violent behavior:

https://research.chusj.org/en/Media/News/2025/Violence-on-TV-what-happens-to-children-who-watch

A case of severe bullying and the trauma that results from it

   https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/may/24/violently-bullied-age-five-school-punched-teachers-ignored

 

The Trump administration is cutting funds to programs that help to reduce violence

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/may/31/trump-federal-funding-cuts-crime

 

The Serviceberry: Abudance and Reciprocity in the Natural World by Robin Wall Kimmerer

 

   What is love? Love is empathy, cooperation and care; love works for restoration and harmony; Love cares about respect, justice and sustainability; it inspires gratitude and reciprocity. It expresses itself in the gifts of Mother Earth, which are assaulted by greed. What is greed? Greed is violence, oppression, lust and corruption.

    Do your choices align with love or do they align with greed?

    I highly recommend Robin Wall Kimmerer’s latest book. If I belonged to a book club, I would offer it as a thought-provoking source of discussion and inspiration.

 

   The Gift economy

   I had never heard of “gift economies” before. It was a novelty concept. I became aware of it for the first time when I read The Serviceberry.

   The Serviceberry is an introspective invitation to belong to a gift economy, one that thrives in acts of gratitude, kindness and reciprocity.

   “Gift economies arise from an understanding of earthly abundance and the gratitude it generates.”

   “In ecological economics, the focus is on creating an economy that provides for a just and sustainable future in which both human life and nonhuman life can flourish.”

   I have to admit that my actions, aspirations and ideas align with the foundation of this little book. I read it in only two hours, and now I am returning to it to reflect on the author’s thoughts and insights, and to gain a deeper understanding of it. After reading this book, I came to the realization that I carve a balance between the demands of a market economy and the volunteering of my work as a member of the gift economy. The joys I harvest as a result of it are robust and amazing…

 

 

The gift of water

 

Market economies commodify the gifts of the Earth. An example of this is the commodification of clean water. I appreciate the way in which she describes the situation:

      “It was previously unthinkable that one would pay for a drink of water; but as careless economic expansion pollutes fresh water, we now incentivize privatization of springs and aquifers. Sweet water, a free gift of the Earth, is pirated by faceless corporations who encase it in plastic containers to sell. And now many can’t afford what was previously free, and we incentivize wrecking public waters to create demand for the privatized.  What induces people to buy bottled water from a corporation more convincingly than contaminated water flowing from the faucet?”

  The system causes several kinds of scarcity to make a profit of them. This one really made me think about the situation from a new perspective, because this is exactly what the fossil fuel corporations do and it is why they have worked so hard for decades to thwart the development of clean energies that are necessary to protect the quality of air and water and to address climate change.

 

Clean energy to address climate change

  When choices are made to reinforce and promote the production of clean energy, the quality of water and air are also protected. In contrast, keeping coal plants open and ditching rules that help to protect the quality of water and air are actions that not only make people sick, but also create a scarcity of clean water and air. These actions also affect the climate, and worsening climate change leads to food scarcity.  

 This made me think about what Donald Trump is doing: he is keeping coal plants open and loosening restrictions that protect the quality of water and air. As a result of the weakening of these restrictions, mercury, lead and other dangerous chemicals are released into the environment. These contaminants poison the air and water. I invite you to do your research and find out the effects that these contaminants have on babies and children…Knowledge is power, so empower yourself.

 

  Robin Wall Kimmerer summarizes the situation in a way that illuminates the reality of what is happening:

                                             “Climate catastrophe and biodiversity loss are the consequences of unrestrained taking by humans.”

   For some people gift economies are utopian ideals that are not realistic, but the alternative is not sustainable either, so what are we supposed to do?

  The good news is that when you open your awareness to the actions of gift economies and give them a name, you can see the sprouting buds of gift economies around you. They are not rare or strange. 

 

   Let’s share some simple hints to help the gift economy flourish in its own right…

“Never take the first one. Never take the last.”

“Take only what you need.”

“Take only that which is given.”

“Never take more than half. Leave some for others.”

“Harvest in a way that minimizes harm.”

“Use it respectfully. Never waste what you have taken.”

“Share.”

 “Give thanks for what you have been given. Give a gift in reciprocity for what you have taken.”

  I endeavor to do so with every post I write… It is an action of gratitude for every book I read. Her messages resonate strongly with My Writing Life: Awareness, Reflection, Inspiration.

 

 

The gift of her book

   The author’s advance payments from this book about the gift economy of the natural world will be donated as a reciprocal gift, back to the land, for land protection, restoration, and justice in support of healing land and people.

   She has an important suggestion  here: Consider reciprocating the gifts of the Earth in your own way. “Whatever your currency of reciprocity—be it money, time, energy, political action, art, science, education, planting, community action, restoration, acts of care, large and small—all are needed in these urgent times.”

   The Serviceberry cites some interesting books to encourage the reader to learn more about the topics she presents. I disagree with the reviewers who said her book is “repetitive.” Nothing could be further from the truth. When one cares to pay attention to genuinely learn about what she is offering, one is better prepared to welcome the new information that is necessary to understand the topic better. Those reviewers may have poor attention spans, which can be an impediment in understanding the depth of the content.

 

  The need for incremental changes

  Gradual incremental changes are necessary to build up the foundation of the so-called gift economies. It takes patience, integrity and motivation to make it possible, but it also needs a new kind of awareness. Gratitude is essential. Actions of solidarity and cooperation are part of the gift economies. Bear in mind that these actions are often discouraged in authoritarian regimes because tyrants want to pit people against each other to weaken them, and to abuse power and oppress communities.  Tyrants and their sycophants use people’s distrust and skepticism to divide and dominate people. In other words, what Robin proposes is the antidote to greed, abuse and exploitation. It is a form of creative resistance to the abuse caused by greed. It requires an open mind and a genuine motivation to improve the current situation.

 

If you enjoyed this post, you can check my writing on the following books:

 

The Permaculture Transition Manual

 

How can I help? Saving Nature with your Yard

 

The book of Hope

 

Gathering Moss by Robin Wall Kimmerer

 

Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer

 

What a Bee Knows

 

Birding to Change the World

 

Robin Wall Kimmerer is a mother, scientist, professor and enrolled member of the Citizen Potawatomi Nation. She is a SUNY Distinguished Teaching Professor of Environmental Biology and the founder of the Center for Native Peoples and the Environment.

 The charming Illustrations are by John Burgoyne. You can visit his site here:

 

 

 

Happy World Bee Day!

 

Honor the bees today and everyday by avoiding the use of herbicides and pesticides. Plant native plants that have not been sprayed with harmful chemicals. Learn how to support the bees by reading the following article. Enjoy their visits to the garden. Fearing bees is an act of ignorance, so learn as much as you can about them and celebrate their presence in the garden. By supporting bees, you also help other pollinators that sustain the health of the ecosystem as well as your own health.

https://xerces.org/pesticides/risks-pesticides-pollinators

 

Raising Hare by Chloe Dalton

 

   Something life transforming happened to Chloe Dalton one day, when she went for a walk in the countryside in England. She came across a baby hare, a leveret. She thought the leveret’s mother was close by, so she did not disturb her. A few hours later, however, she checked on her; the baby hare was still there, lying still on the grass.

   Chloe Knew that the baby hare was at risk. Something may have happened to her mother. She may have been killed. Foxes and stoats lurked around. The leveret was a potential prey to several creatures. Chloe knew that the baby hare would not survive without her mother, so she did what any caring person would have done. She decided to rescue her.

    There was not much information out there on how to feed a leveret. She asked wildlife and conservation experts for advice. She searched for scientific literature, but even literary references were more helpful in this case. Her sister, who owned a small farm, did not know anything about hares, but she gave her powdered milk for kittens and a two-ounce bottle suitable for puppies, kittens, bunnies and hedgehogs.

   The new experience of taking care of a leveret that belonged to the wild had begun and Chloe did not feel prepared for it.

   I was a bit frustrated to read about a couple of clumsy actions toward the leveret that clearly showed that Chloe had little knowledge or intuition about the natural world. As I read the book, I could see that Chloe Dalton was a city person; her misconceptions and prejudices were evident in the ways she viewed certain situations. However, the experience of raising the hare opened her up to a deeper connection with the natural world.

 

The adventure of raising a hare

  Raising Hare shares interesting literary references and information about hares. It is about  the adventure of raising a hare from the wild. Despite the fact that Chloe Dalton refused to nourish a sense of attachment to the hare, the bond took place. It was built on trust and care. Did Chloe Dalton-the city person- learn that love happens too in the wild? Why do human beings feel a sense of superiority? I feel that her sense of superiority got in the way of understanding the hare a couple of times, but the hare was also a source of wisdom, and Chloe learned to appreciate that.

  “She has taught me patience. And as someone who has made their living through words, she has made me consider the dignity and persuasiveness of silence. She showed me a different life, and the richness of it.”

  I enjoyed learning about how the hare transformed Chloe Dalton’s life. The hare changed Chloe's habits and some of her behaviors. The hare awakened a kind of awareness that led her to live her life differently, in a more meaningful, mindful way, a kind of simplicity that she had lacked before she met the hare.

   “For months, I had risen at dawn to make bottles of milk or lay out food for the leveret. I had tiptoed around my house in the daytime so that it could sleep, and changed my own sleeping patterns, going to bed with nightfall. I had imposed on family and visitors the requirement to talk quietly and not frighten the young hare. I had avoided switching on lights at dusk, so as not to interfere with the leveret’s rhythms, and I had stopped using them in the garden, conscious for the first time of their disruptive effect on the vision of nocturnal animals. I had not worn perfume for months, imagining it to be caustic and disorienting to a hare’s sensitive nose, and no longer turned on the television for the evening news, to avoid subjecting the leveret to loud and discordant noises.”

 

             Freedom, love, risks

   At some point the leveret grew and became a hare who searched for her freedom beyond the walls of Chloe Dalton’s garden. Freedom comes with a whole set of new risks, but the love and care of a mother are never forgotten. They are treated with respect and trust. The hare left… but she also returned to her “human mother”.  The hare without a name came back home and shared her joy with her human mother… I will not add more. Read it and let the wondrous experience touch your heart and open up your senses to the sweetness of empathy.

    It is sad that Chloe Dalton did not name the hare. The hare deserved a name, just like anybody else does, but Chloe was stuck in her own prejudices. Oh, well. Mothers do not have to be perfect to be good mothers after all. Dear Chole Dalton: Being wild does not mean not having an identity. The hare has one too.

  The book contains delightful drawings of hares. You will fall in love with them. I can’t get enough of these drawings.

 I don’t have hares in my backyard, but I love watching the behaviors of the rabbits. Every moment is an opportunity to feel thankful in the garden.

 If you enjoyed this post, make sure you read my posts on the following books:

 Rewilding Our Hearts: Building Paths of Compassion and Coexistence by Marc Bekoff

The Darkness Manifesto: On Light Pollution, Night Ecology and the Ancient Rhythms that Sustain Life by Johan Eklof

Addendum: if you find an animal in the wild that needs help, be mindful of their needs and do your best to help by seeking expert advice. Wildlife rehabilitation centers can be helpful. Here's some information on what to do and what not to do:

https://www.humaneworld.org/en/resources/how-help-orphaned-or-injured-baby

Do It Like A Woman by Caroline Criado Perez

 

   Welcome back readers! After surviving one of those so-called “natural events” that are getting worse due to the massive amounts of greenhouse gases spewed into the environment, I am back here. I got sick after that, which delayed the writing of this post even more... I am thankful that I survived without any injuries, and now I need to keep my book blog active.

  If there is only one book you want to read this year, make sure you pick Caroline  Criado Perez’s book: Do It Like a Woman.

  You may not know this, but even educated people are biased against women. Both men and women are; the consequences of these biases are disastrous for humanity and the planet we inhabit. Therefore, Caroline Criado Perez’s book may be an effective vaccine to prevent this terrifying, subliminal social phenomenon.

   Even though research has debunked the myth that boys are better at math than girls, even educated people are known to spread false beliefs that have a harming impact on society as a whole. In 2005 Lawrence Summer, the then president of Harvard University, made a bizarre speech about how girls are just intrinsically worse at math than boys, and that issues of “socialization and continuing discrimination” are in fact secondary to this “variability of aptitude.”

   Stereotyping and prejudices have a serious impact on peoples’ lives. I have always been aware of the fact that gender double standards are normalized and considered acceptable. The problem is rooted in the fact that both girls and women are penalized when they do not conform to stereotypical gender behavior. In The Equality Illusion, Kat Banyard cites a 2003 study of teachers which found that the same behaviors that led boys to be indulgently labelled as “just mucking about” led girls to be called “bad influences,” “spiteful,” and “scheming little madams.”

    Research has shown that "men who asked for flexible time to enable them to carry out childcare commitments were rated as more respectable, likable, committed, and promotion-worthy than a woman who made the exact same request." 

Do it like a woman who does not behave like a sycophant… and change the world 

 Do It Like a Woman by Caroline Criado Perez is about women who try to transform systems that put women down systematically. When they cannot transform them, as it happens in some cases, they defy them. The book brings to the spotlight situations and data that are not even questioned or acknowledged. It happens across the world.

     There are no excuses to be surprised anymore. Before the election of November, 2024 in America, I remember journalists interviewing people who  clearly expressed that they would never vote for Kamala Harris for president because she was a woman. ( One cannot help but  wonder why these people are afraid of intelligent women while they trust an incompetent man and vote for him to make him president).

   In November 2024 in the United States of America seventy-seven million people voted for a convicted felon instead of voting for the female candidate who had a clean record. This is not an opinion; this is a fact. 

    Social misogyny is expensive and destructive.

     Seventy-seven million people voted for a man who promised to lower grocery prices, stop the war in Ukraine and Gaza, fix the healthcare system and reduce gasoline prices. He also promised he would start no new wars and to be a dictator on day one. He expressed admiration for Vladimir Putin. This is what they voted for.

   On February 28 the man they voted for was responsible for the death of more than 160 girls in a school in Minab. I am still waiting for signs of accountability; the silence is deafening. This atrocity was not enough. Then he threatened to wipe out an entire civilization. Yet his sycophants continue to normalize him. 

   Many people have died as a result of the votes in November 2024 and continue to die. It is hard to keep up with so much destruction, injustice and irrationality.  Let’ s not forget the people in America who die in the hands of ICE. Money that could be invested in education, health and the environment is used to build detention centers to detain innocent people. I do not see any signs of social and fiscal responsibility here. 

    The trump regime is now busy going after political opponents, covering up for pedophiles and building a ballroom. It is also too busy trying to censor comedians and posting ridiculous material online by using AI... It is hard to understand why seventy- seven million voters in America have so little self-respect. It is truly sad to see how they were okay with voting for a man who is happy to destroy their own country. 

  How can they even call this the political party of social and fiscal responsibility?

   Let's refresh people's memories because they are very fragile and feeble. Seventy-seven million people voted for a  man who started an unlawful war to cover up for pedophile crimes. Ninety million people could not bring themselves to vote for a woman because she was not good enough for them.

  How many billion dollars are being spent daily on an unlawful war to kill children when the money could have been used for education, health and the environment?

 

      Social misogyny has devastating consequences for every country in the world and we need to face the truth and work to address it. This is why Do It Like a Woman is an important book.

  You will learn about women working to fight the corruption of systems that put women down in every country. You will learn what it means to simply try to live a normal life when the forces of sexism threaten your safety.

    Different versions of this book can be written in one million other ways with lots of different women, but this is what Caroline Criado Perez put together with comprehensive research. She shares the experiences of human beings fighting the good fight against structures of corruption and injustice.

   Let’s focus for a moment on the imposed stereotype that considers women  “irrational.” Here’s a thought on this on page 56:

  “’It is always a source of wonder to me how male anger, which so routinely explodes on our newspapers in the form of rape, beatings and murders, hasn’t earned men the label of ‘irrational’.” We are used to hearing how irrational women are; this is used to mock and safely dismiss women.  By the same token, when women behave in rational ways that challenge the concept of irrationality, they are treated with distrust. They are breaking some kind of rule that is used to stereotype them.   

   On page 107 there is an insightful analysis on the Greco-Roman roots of silencing women who speak up against systems of corruption. The influence runs deep in literature. I encourage you to read it because it will help you to awaken to biases that are accepted as part of the normal landscape.

   “An ancient scientific treatise pontificating on the way a ‘deep’ voice indicates manly courage, while a high voice alerts us to the presence of female cowardice; a Roman anthologist from the first century AD describing the ‘impudent’ barking and ‘yapping’ of a woman.”

  These influences have been carried by literary works throughout history, so it is important to identify these subliminal forces that shape mindsets and judgments.

  I like how she cites, for example, the case of Henry James, a celebrated writer. “In the nineteenth century, Henry James is explicit on this point in one of his essays comparing women’s voices to the moo of the cow, the bray of the ass and the bark of the dog. Like the undermining of women’s voices as shrill, nagging, whining, this reduction of female speech to animalistic, unintelligible noises serves a purpose beyond denying women access to human speech. It highlights the fundamental denial of access to rationality and knowledge.”

 

    Perhaps dismissing women’s voices is a tool to abuse power and disregard the need for empathy. It is a strategy to impede the growth of positive qualities in a society.

    I would change the title to Do it Like a woman who is not a sycophant. I think it is important to be specific here. It can make a world of difference, right?           

    Read it. Share it. Pass it on. We need more books like this one, not only to awaken people to their own biases, but also to change attitudes and behaviors.

    Stay informed, stay active.

 

  Relevant links with updated content, information and reflections on what is going on:

 

Fascism expert provides important insights to understand what is happening in America:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bOHqE--T7-U

  

Brain Tyler Cohen explains clear examples on how the pathological liar’s words come back to haunt him:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GIeIGlSThw

 

How data centers are worsening climate change:

https://www.cnn.com/2026/03/30/climate/data-centers-are-having-an-underrported

 

 

He promised to cut energy prices. The opposite is happening:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O7R4M3haac

 

 

He wants taxpayers to fund his ballroom:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwa3VXZojNQ

 

 

The regime is deleting data. This is a form of censorship and it facilitates the spread of falsehoods and misinformation:

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/ng-interactive/2026/may/07/trump-administration-deleting-data

 

 

Black lawmakers are getting arrested for opposing the gutting of the Voting Rights Act:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uYSLuE5I3dM

 

 

A refugee was left to die in the cold in Buffalo, New York. This is what Nazis did too:

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2026/apr/27/rohingya-refugees-buffalo-new-york

 

 

The pattern to silence women online is real:

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/may/01/un-warns-women-in-public-life-face-increasingly-sophisticated-online-violence

 

 

 

If you enjoyed this post, feel free to read my writing on the following books:

 

Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez

 

Lessons in Chemistry by Bonnie Garmus

Parable of the Talents by Octavia Butler

We Were the Mulvaneys by Joyce Carol Oates

 

     

Platero And I by Juan Ramon Jimenez

 

   Those of us who experience the depth of the emotional connection with a non-human animal will understand the significance of Platero and I.

     Juan Ramon Jimenez’s poetical prose is about the shared experiences between the author and Platero. Platero is a donkey; Juan Ramon Jimenez reveals the soul of his humble donkey friend with tenderness, giving way to a poignant emotional connection with the reader.

     Juan Ramon Jimenez’s Platero and I is a memorable tribute to Platero, his inseparable companion, as they share moments of contemplation, joy, sadness and reflections. Their encounters with animals, people and the beauty of their natural surroundings in the small town of Moguer in Andalusia, Spain, fill the reader with wonder.

   “He is so much like me, so different from the others that I have come now to believe we dream the same… his dreams mine… and my dreams his.”

   The mutual understanding between Platero and Juan Ramon creates a sense of comfort.

   “We understand each other. I let him go wherever he wishes and always he takes me where it is I wish to go.”

   The narrative warms the heart and transports the readers to a sanctuary of serenity where everything turns into a metaphor or an expression of beauty. The author invites the reader to see everything through the eyes of a poet.

  The presence of Platero in Juan Ramon Jimenez’s life clearly connects him to his surroundings and people in meaningful ways. The author also appears to relish their shared solitude, which appears to provide Juan Ramon with opportunities to paint and read. Every instant seems to be pregnant with intrigue and fascination.

  This is the kind of book that touches you so deeply, it can move you to tears. It swathes you in a blanket of gratitude for the simple moments of life, the immaterial treasures that make life meaningful.

  The souls of Platero and Juan Ramon coalesce in the magical sweetness of nature. The freshness of the morning breath, the brightness of the moon, the colors of the sunset adopt a new dimension of reality. They become unique moments of elation and healing.  

  Juan Ramon Jimenez’s bond with Platero is so precious and intimate that he does not even perceive Platero as a donkey but as a person.

  “He is tender and loving like a young boy, a small girl, a child… but inside he is strong, he is dry like a rock, like the land he walks.”

   Platero’s gentle spirit permeates the poet’s way of looking at everything; their connection feels eternal, like the seasons and cycles in nature. It transcends the limited scope of their individual lives. Their kindness expresses itself in their interactions with animals, people and landscapes. Even though brief unpleasant situations take us by surprise in the story, the empathetic voice of the poet never fails to bring us back to the gentle, patient attitude of Platero and Juan Ramon to restore a sense of hope, immersing ourselves once again in a moment of balance and peacefulness despite the abrupt despair, grief or the appalling cruelty of others…

     Juan Ramon Jimenez was a poet, editor and critic who won the Nobel Prize for Literature in 1956. He was born on December 23, 1881 in Moguer, Andalusia, where he wrote Platero and I. He started writing when he was a child. His most famous masterpiece, Platero and I was published in 1914; a longer version of it was later published in 1917.

    You can learn more about his life by visiting the website of the Poetry Foundation:

 https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poets/juan-ramon-jimaenez

 To visit some of the places in his poetical prose, enjoy this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bZR0MNJ4Uuc

 

Here's a video about his biography and poetic work:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LHgXcxmH6mM

 I recommend the full version of the book. The photo of the book cover in this post showcases an old complete edition in Spanish that I possess. It contains the most delightful drawings. I am lucky to have it…

  To satisfy my curiosity I borrowed an English translation of the book from the library. Unfortunately, many parts have been cut off from the translation. Make sure you find the complete version of this delicate memorable book, whether you read it in English or Spanish. Platero and I has been translated into more than fifty languages.

 

 

If you enjoyed this post, feel free to read my writing on the following books:

Deer Man by Geoffroy Delorme

Second Nature: the inner lives of animals

Dirty Gourmet: plant power: Food for your Outdoor Adventures

Italian Short Stories edited by Jhumpa Lahiri

          

      If you started following this blog early this year, you may have been looking forward to the post on this anthology. 

      Every short story in this compilation is preceded by a brief biography of the author. At least forty Italian authors are featured in this book. The writers come from both rich and poor families. The diversity of stories includes realist, neorealist, avant-garde, fantastic, modernist and postmodernist styles.

  Some authors in this anthology cultivated literary fame while others shunned it. The Second World War influenced the writing and lives of these authors in various ways. Bear in mind that two of them were in Nazi concentration camps; another writer escaped from one. At least twelve of these writers were forced to live in hiding, either because they were members of the anti-fascist Resistance, or because they were Jews.

    The authors in this compilation lived during the twentieth century, and Jhumpa Lahiri offers an introduction about the selection of the stories, her personal connection with Italy and relevant information about the historical context.

    The Second World War had devastating effects on the Italian society and economy, but the aftermath of the Second World War gave way to a new cultural movement during which literary magazines proliferated and innovative publishing initiatives cropped up.

      In the introduction to this anthology, Jhumpa Lahiri explains that Mussolini’s fascist regime sought “to standardize and flatten the language.” This is one of the features of totalitarian regimes. They sabotage language, which is an essential tool for communication. As you know, Orwell exposes this action of totalitarian regimes in his novel 1984. In the case of Mussolini's fascist regime, language serves the purpose of fascist ideology. For example, the pronoun lei (as opposed to voi) was prohibited as a second pronoun because it was claimed to be a Spanish grammatical import, and also because it sounded “feminine.”

      Fascism stripped women of political influence and expected them to be subservient. The roots of this trend may have had a Greco-Roman origin (more on this in a future post). 

   After the fall of fascism new trends in literature emerged as writers reckoned with the past. There was a transformation in response to the rigidity imposed by the fascist regime. I looked into this further and found a list of novels about living under Italian fascism. I will probably choose something from this list in the future:

https://electricliterature.com/8-novels-in-translation-about-living-under-italian-fascism-italy/

   

    One of the stories I enjoyed from Jhumpa Lahiri's anthology is “Miss” by Anna Banti. It reveals the life journey of a woman who makes the choices that somehow define her identity, and the patriarchy underestimates those choices.  Yet she still feels compelled to make those choices because she is curious and intellectually active. The stream of consciousness reveals how her intellectual curiosity and talents guide her in the direction she chooses to go despite the condescending attitudes and the lack of respect she faces, which appears to be a normal part of her existence as a female member of the human race.  

   In her mosaic of interests and talents, her voice claims its space in subtle, yet powerful ways that captivate the reader. At least it captivated me.

   I would like to explore more stories by Anna Banti. Another writer I enjoyed reading was Lalla Romano. I appreciate how these two writers put into words situations and thoughts that are not easy to verbalize.

    Another story I would like to highlight from the collection is the one by Dino Buzzati. It is about a family and friends inside a house that slowly gets flooded, but the residents have trouble accepting what is going on in it.  They are in denial of the truth, even when the truth is right in front of their eyes. This story could be used as an analogy on what is happening today with the effects of climate change along with the attitudes and words of the deniers. Similarly, the analogy may be applied to the way some people choose to be in denial of the actions of brutal, senseless political regimes. It is a powerful story that left me reflecting on the ways people are in denial of facts that threaten their own livelihoods or the lives of others. An example of this was the COVID pandemic. Thousands of people refused to acknowledge the existence of a pandemic, referring to it as a hoax, even when people close to them died. Imagine now the example of a demented irrational  psychopath ruling a country with unrestrained power. You get the idea. 

    What does it mean to be in denial of something that needs to be addressed as soon as possible? If you read the story by Dino Buzzati: “And yet They are Knocking on your Door” you will know what I mean.

   One of my favorite stories in this collection is the one by Alba de Cespedes in which the writer explores the embarrassing emotions and reputation of the citizens of Italy after succumbing to the fascist regime. I will be exploring more of Alba de Cespedes’ works…Likewise, I would  like to read more works by Italo Calvino. His story about a conversation with a tortoise surprised me. I thought it was original, insightful and ahead of its times, a good summary of the manifestations and effects of human arrogance on the world…

    Many of the short stories in this collection clearly expose the power of the patriarchy and the subjugation of women in society. Some of these tales are oppressive and unpleasant.  I prefer stories that open a window of hope and new possibilities; this is not the case with most of the stories in this anthology; I would have chosen stories that deal with these themes from a rebellious perspective, in a more adventurous way.

  I think Lahiri could have made a better selection to excite the reader. It took me over three months to complete the read.

   Some of these stories are good, but many of them are deeply misogynistic, boring and, of course, stupid. For example, there is one called “The Streetwalker”, a disgusting story about a man who cheats on his wife by going to sex workers regularly, and he shares every detail of his irrelevant outings. I am not even sure if some of the sex workers are indeed sex workers or sex slaves. Women are clearly used by the narrator as objects to satisfy his personal desires.  Women are not viewed as human beings with feelings, needs and emotions of their own. They are not treated as human beings that deserve basic respect. They are simply used to satisfy his desires in the most convenient way. It was nauseating. Interestingly, I feel the same kind of nausea whenever I hear or see a clownish orange psychopath... I suppose in America there will be many people fascinated with this kind of man considering the kind of politician they voted for to rule the country in a king-like manner that makes no sense. I thought the story “The Streetwalker” was vulgar and irrelevant—a complete waste of my time.

   This is a very heterogeneous collection. The feat of this collection, however, is that it offers literary works that had never been translated into English. I also appreciate that it awakened my interest in new Italian authors and their works.

  I think the introduction could have provided more information on the effects of fascism on literature and society since this is a critical issue that authors had to contend with. Jhumpa Lahiri could have analyzed this in relation to the stories to highlight the relevance of the book. I was not interested in her personal experiences with Italy as much as I was in the reverberations of fascism.

    I wanted to learn more about the historical context of the tales she picked.

  All in all, I recommend this book, but bear in mind that you will have to complete the literary and historical exploration yourself to dig deeper into the lives of the authors and the meaning of their stories.

 

Good news to share

 

Yesterday I was thankful to receive an email that informed me that a federal judge blocked trump’s attack against the endangered species act. You can learn more on this here:

 

https://earthjustice.org/press/2026/federal-court-strikes-down-president-trumps-attacks-against-endangered-species-act-restores-bedrock-environmental-law-to-pre-trump-status

  Thank you to everyone who helped to make this possible. This is just the beginning of the battle. We need to continue working to protect the earth from the vandalism and assault caused by the trump regime.

   It is also important to educate the public on the lies of the so-called MAHA movement. The trump regime has dismantled regulations that protect us from toxic, harmful chemicals, pesticides and pollutants. Many of them cause cancer, developmental disabilities, and other serious health issues. You can read about this here. Make sure you share these links and let your representatives know that you disagree with what they are doing.

 https://earthjustice.org/feature/trump-maha

  

    

   The fossil fuel industry is complicit with this regime. Dirty oil continues to kill people in senseless wars and in our everyday lives. There is no concern over public health and the environment. There is no concern for the lives lost in unlawful wars. Please, vote for democracy and justice. Do everything you can to vote out fascism. Support clean energy initiatives. They support rural economies and provide jobs. Support the future of your children to keep them safe from sexual abuse and to live in a planet where they can enjoy nature. VOTE. Stay informed. Every voice matters.  Use your voice. Call your representatives. Sign petitions.

      Ten years ago, I anticipated the current situation when I wrote a well-researched article on the need to support the development of clean energies and to work toward a sustainable future. It was published in The Mindful Word.

     I like to remind myself that I am thankful for the beauty of the sun… but I also feel thankful for how the sun powers our home and transportation without polluting the air we breathe… what is not to like about this?

      Take a moment to contemplate the Pink Moon today. It symbolizes renewal, rebirth and growth…